Nancy worked at a large financial company that was infamous for frequent lay-offs. Yet, Nancy was still there after 20 years. When people were laid off, she was like Teflon. Employees came and went, but Nancy remained. And, yet, she worked in a department vulnerable to lay-offs -- Marketing. What was Nancy's secret? I got to know her well, and, in this blog, I will share the secrets of her success. Some of them may be hard to execute. But, if you do so, you may have a

A while back, I read a book that blew me away, "The Stress of Life, " by Dr. Hans Selye. The author wrote about witnessing a dramatic increase in life stress, with all kinds of physical and emotional ramifications. You're probably wondering why this premise would be so jaw dropping. We all know that stress causes all of kinds of problems. And it's obvious that people have more stress than ever before. What shocked me was that the book was written in the l950s! This was a

A few years ago, I realized something important. There are people out there who are simply annoying -- and then there are others who are toxic. How do we know the difference? Annoying people are just -- well, annoying. They get on our nerves and under our skin. But, in general, these folks are harmless. And then there are the toxic ones, the people whom we should avoid like the plague, whenever possible. Let me give you a couple of examples of annoying versus toxic. Andre

I just came back from a performance that I didn't like. I disliked it so much that I walked out before it was over. I bumped into an...

Dr. Eleanor Stein, a psychiatrist with a lovely website at https://www.eleanorsteinmd.ca was kind enough to ask to interview me. The...

A while back, a close friend and colleague, Julie, did something that really hurt me.  So I did what any therapist from Berkeley would do...

Years ago, psychologist Barbara Held wrote a book with an intriguing premise.  It was that many Americans are unhappy because of the...

Imagine this.  You go to see a new therapist, Amanda, whom you’ve only met once before.  In her waiting room, you ingest some sort of...

Years ago I worked at an agency supervising new therapists.   Part of my job was doing trainings for the staff.   The trainings were...

There is a fascinating story from Greek mythology about King Midas.  You have probably heard of him through the expression, “The Midas...

I sometimes make a suggestion to clients that they don't usually like. It is to reduce their intake of news. I don't suggest this for...

In the l960s, Psychiatrist Viktor Frankl developed a therapy of meaning, which he called, Logotherapy. The main premise? As long as...

Decades ago, there was a popular therapy called, Reality Therapy.   The aim was what you’d expect:  to help clients live in reality. The...

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I used to know a young woman, Michelle.  Michelle was very distressed when she was around her family. Her siblings were condescending...

I used to work with a lot of children and teens.  But I will no longer see minors.  The reason?  The State of California’s laws about...

There was a fascinating study done several years ago. They took pessimists and tried to turn them into optimistics. The participants...

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There's a new book with a provocative name and thesis. It's called, Bad Therapy, by journalist Abigail Shreier. The book is a harsh...

Psychiatrist, M. Scott Peck,  wrote a popular book years ago called, People of the Lie. It’s an eye-opening book about a disturbing...