In a previous blog, I described the four temperaments. I'd suggest referring back to that blog. But to summarize, they are: Choleric:...

Do you have friction with people at work? Does your partner drive you crazy sometimes? Do you feel perplexed by your child's behavior?...

Life can be difficult at times. Perhaps one of the most difficult parts is when we second-guess ourselves and berate ourselves for...

A number of years ago, I watched one of those 60 Minute-type programs. A reporter had staged a "crisis" event in downtown Manhattan,...

If you are in the Bay Area right now, you know about the terribly smoky conditions. It's almost impossible to go anywhere without the...

Jan and Alana were a couple I knew who argued frequently. When Alana directly stated her needs, Jan found this off putting. And Alana...

A number of years ago, a group of therapists published a book. Rather than showcasing their treatment successes, they described their...

There’s a book that became an overnight success. The book is called, “Quiet,” and it’s a nonfiction work about the challenges of being...

There’s an interesting new field of study called, “Post Traumatic Growth.” Researchers are trying to find out why traumatic experiences...

A friend of mine, Kim, was struggling to deal with her 8-year-old daughter’s sadness. Kim was a single parent raising Becky on her own....

We live in a generally upbeat culture, especially those of us who live in California. The attitude tends to be that being positive and...

Psychotherapy is a delicate and personal relationship. With your therapist, you will be sharing private and intimate information. Given...

I try to offer full disclosure to clients about administrative matters. In that spirit, I would like to share the pros and cons about...

I wrote a blog (see below) about the bumper sticker, “Don’t Believe Everything You Think.” The same can be said about our feelings. Our...

There’s a popular bumper sticker around Berkeley that reads, Don’t Believe Everything You Think. There’s a lot of truth in this clever...

Monica and Anna were close friends until they started living together. But once they rented an apartment together, they were barely...

You are your own best friend. Or are you? There are times when we look out for ourselves, when we protect ourselves from harm. But at...

Leslie, age 30, came to therapy to deal with a bully boss. Her new manager was making her life miserable, and she needed some coping...

Jenna is a very empathic person. However, sometimes she can be too empathic. For instance, Jenna will put up with bad behavior from...

Lindsay, age 27, was ambivalent about marrying Brian. “I just don’t know if he’s the one. He has problems, but then again, doesn’t...